Contemporary society lacks comfortable spaces.
An overall definition of contemporary society is too much to ask.
Therefore I will talk about it from a very personal perspective. I cannot and will not cover all of the issues what modern society is or can be.
As we live in a very competitive society that always strives for the better, improvement in any form is seen as the ultimate goal for humanity. The system is described as unhealthy if it doesn’t grow constantly. Companies always need to make more profit than last year, life gets more and more expensive as a result of inflation, people have to earn more and more money along the way, today a shared flat is fine whereas in ten years I want to have my own house, 1000 years ago a person could only tell a few things their own, nowadays we as individuals have countless things in abundances.
Evolution is based on growth, stagnation is the enemy.
Being part of our western culture leads to an enormous amount of influences we’re exposed to. Whether it’s moving within the city or crowded places, where you are hit by a loud background noise, fast moving traffic and bold advertisements, or it’s taking public transport with an anonymous crowd of people staring into their phones lethargically. In the end it is you that stares into your phone where social media is distracting you from your surroundings. You switch between the same five apps in an endless circle, that only can be disrupted by the final arrival to your destination.
Short-term distraction disconnects from an overload of information.
When fifteen of my friends were over for my birthday, we had some good food and a lot to drink. Stories were told, experiences shared and the table was filled with empty bottles. We laughed, we danced and we had a terrible good time. This could have happened the same way thousands of years ago except for the slight difference that this night smartphones had already been invented. Between all the bottles and glasses everyone had placed their phones face up. Once in a while, often a short while, a lock-screen notification drew away the attention of its addressee. Not that conversation was brought to an immediate stop all the time but on several occasion it was.
Globalisation enables you to socialise anytime but has you in it’s claws.
How would I describe comfortable space, again from a subjective perception?
Sometimes it is inevitable to be exposed to stress or external pressure. There are tasks to do and a schedule to keep up to. Dedicated to serve a greater cause that somehow develops something to give someone profit, even if it’s for yourself. Feeling comfortable means to not always push your boundaries and challenge your abilities. The comfort zone involves having time on your side as well as not being constantly evaluated for your actions. It includes not having to commit to something to generate process.
Letting things go and putting on a slower pace will create a pleasant atmosphere for yourself.
A large amount of people can be referred to as a crowd, but if the same amount of people is given space to scatter the terminology “crowd” doesn’t seem to be suitable anymore. Suddenly noise is spreading out evenly throughout the space and converts into a nice atmospheric sound that somehow gives you shelter by telling you that you’re not alone. When the space gets bigger and higher, observing people move from an elevated position creates meditational harmony that will loosen thoughts. You are giving your mind room to digress and pressure in any kind is released. You will start to feel comfortable in yourself.
The reduction of direct external influences decelerates the mind.
I am actually very happy to be able to say that I have received letters in my life. Not because of their content, but because them being real letters written by hand, because they are not short WhatsApp messages forwarded to many people. Life without social media and instant correspondence to people all over the world wasn’t necessarily better, but some situations can be enjoyed more deeply when shared in real life, rather than another Instagram story.
In the town I studied for four years, the medieval town of Regensburg, Germany, in bars and pubs often smartphones haven’t had reception.
Not even wifi was provided, just a night with nice people undistracted by trivialities that could wait until the next morning.